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Thanksgiving comes but once a year, reminding families that it’s healthy, practical, and helpful to take a moment to be thankful for all the blessings in life. As parents, it’s easy to get lost in dirty diapers, toddler meltdowns, pre-teen attitudes, and the stress of juggling work/home life, but gratitude gives us the ability to slow down, absorb some good from each day, and invite more positivity our way.

Best-selling author Melody Beattie explains, “Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates vision for tomorrow.” This mental organization is not only helpful for us, but vital to growing young minds, too. Finding fun ways to incorporate gratitude into every day – not just once a year – can help create resilience, positivity, humility, and kindness in our children, which are all powerful forces for inner growth and adaptability.

The Appreciation Chair

Designate a chair at the dinner table as “the appreciation chair” and take turns sitting in it. Go around the table and have everyone say something they admire or appreciate about that person. Share praise and encouragement to lift that person up.

Nature Walks

Make a morning, after-school, or evening walk around the block or local park part of your daily ritual. Kids love scavenger hunts! Before departing, explain that you want everyone to find something they are thankful for on the walk.

Thankful Rocks

You can choose to paint your own rocks or buy polished special rocks. Children can carry these special tokens with them in a pocket for a visual reminder to be thankful that someone loves them. Younger children can read “Being Thankful” by Mercer Mayer, where Little Critter is perpetually unhappy until he spends a day on his grandparents’ farm and receives his own gratitude rock.

Bedtime Rituals

Whether you are religious or not, it’s easy to reflect on the day at bed time and think about the silver linings. Kids often find it challenging to come up with ideas, so you might prompt your child: “Name someone who helped you today.” “Who taught you something today?” “Who supported you today?” “Who challenged you today?” “Who showed they cared about you today?” “Who cheered for you today?”    

Alphabet Memory Game

Like the “I’m Going on a Picnic” game, try going around the table and taking turns listing something you can be grateful for that starts with every letter of the alphabet. Maybe you are grateful for Apple pie, Bedtime stories, and Cozy sweaters, for example!

Send a Card

Instead of connecting with family and friends by sending out hundreds of Christmas cards all at once, choose someone from your list each week to mail a random “thank you” card to. Have everyone share their thoughts on why they’re grateful to know this person. Kids can add drawings that will be forever cherished or you might add your favorite photo memory of the year.

Workbooks

Doing one page from a workbook can be a fun activity to do with a child (ages 8-12), either daily or on the weekends when there’s no homework. The Growth Mindset Workbook for Kids contains inspirational stories, writing prompts, exercises, and activities that not only help with gratitude, but with creative problem-solving and developing a positive attitude, too. You can also try the simple Three Minute Gratitude Journal for Kids, which reminds kids to focus on the good they experience each day.

Paper Chain Craft

Perhaps you remember making paper chains in school as a child. Every day someone in the family can write down a daily blessing on a piece of paper that looped and glued to the next one into an interlocking chain. This home decoration then serves as a visual reminder of all we have to be thankful for.

Service Projects

Subscribe to Doing Good Together, a fantastic resource to help you find family-friendly volunteer service projects in the NYC area. From fighting racism and poverty, to saving the Earth and providing comfort, choosing one or two projects to focus on each month can strengthen your family’s bond, remind the kids that not everyone has such abundance, and provide a way to share good fortune with others. 

Going Without

Lastly, this isn’t exactly “fun,” but it can be useful: try choosing something each month that your family goes without. Maybe it’s foregoing weekly pizza night or desserts, opting for board games instead of tablets, or walking places that are less than two miles away instead of driving. We live in a culture of plenty and it can be easy to take the things we have for granted. Going without reminds us of all that we have.

If there is any silver lining to 2020, it’s having more time with our kids — whether homeschooling, quarantining, or simply socially distancing in your own little pod. Crafting is an excellent way to relieve stress, so we’ve compiled a list of fun, easy Thanksgiving place setting crafts to help you bust boredom, while also adding a personal touch to your table spread.

Gratitude Pumpkins

What You Need:

• Brown Marker
• Orange and Green Paper
• Green Pipe Cleaner
• Hole Puncher
• Brads (x2)
• Scissors

How To Do It:

Cut five 8.5 x ¾-inch strips of orange paper. Punch a hole at both ends, and one in the middle, of each strip. Stack the strips on top of each other, placing a brad through the center to hold them together. Fan out the strips to look like an orange sun, writing something your child is thankful for on each strip. Cut out a leaf-shape from the green, write “I’m thankful for…”, and punch a hole in it. Layer the strips on top of each other again, word-side down. Wrap a green pipe-cleaner around the second brad and curl the ends around a pen so they look like curly tendrils. Finally, fasten the brad through the last pumpkin strips holes. Fan the pumpkin back out and voila! You can find more step-by-step photos here.

Spin Art Turkeys

What You Need:

• A Salad Spinner
• Toilet Paper Rolls
• Paper Plates
• Tempera Paint
• Googly Eyes
• Orange foam (or construction paper)
• Red ribbon (or red-painted apple stems)

How To Do It:

Cut your paper plates to fit inside the salad spinner. Pour tempera paint onto the plates – whatever colors your child likes. Spin, spin, spin! Cut slits into the sides of your toilet paper roll. Fold your spin-art tail in half – colored side out – and insert it into the slits. Add googly eyes, red ribbon (or, in a pinch, red-painted apple stems), and an orange foam triangle beak with glue. Follow along at Dilly-Dali Art.

Pumpkin Handprint Photo Keepsake

What You Need:

• Flour (1 Cup)
• Salt (1 Cup)
• Water (1/2 Cup)
• Orange Paint
• Brown Paint
• Twine, Ribbon, or String
• Round Cookie Cutter
• Cookie Stamps
• Small Piece of Cardboard
• Craft Glue
• Photo
• Scissors
• Oven

How To Do It:

Mix flour and salt. Add water. Roll the dough to 1 cm thick. Form a pumpkin shape, reserving a small piece of dough, which you’ll attach on top as the stump. Press your child’s handprint into the center of the pumpkin. Use the cookie cutter to make the circle for the photo. Stamp the date with cookie stamps. Add one hole on either side of the top pumpkin for the string. Bake the pumpkin for three hours at 160 degrees Fahrenheit. Remove from the oven, turn upside-down, and cool overnight. Paint and let dry. Add the string and photo, attaching a piece of cardboard backing with strong craft glue for added stability. Get more info at Teach-Me-Mommy.com.

Windsock Turkeys

What You Need:

• Recycled can – cleaned and dried, with the top and bottom removed
• Brown Paint
• Elmer’s Craft Bond Quick Dry Glue
• Elmer’s Medium Tip Painters Pen (Orange)
• Large Googly Eyes
• Fall Color Ribbons
• Feathers, Felt, or Mix & Match Fall Color Construction Paper
• Masking Tape

How To Do It:

Paint the can brown, allowing it to dry completely before drawing on the orange beak with the Painters Pen and attaching the eyes with Quick Dry glue. Cut 10-15 pieces of ribbon approximately 18”. Cover the inside rims of the can to protect little fingers, and then place rows of glue overtop the tape. On top, attach the turkey tail feathers made from actual feathers, felt, paper, or any combination of materials. On bottom, attach the decorative ribbons. Use the glue to attach a felt waddle and a ribbon for hanging over a chair. Visit Happiness is Homemade if you need more information.

Table Teepees

What You Need:

• Free Teepee Printable
• Double-sided Tape
• Decorative Washi Tape
• Colorful Paper Straws
• Ruler
• Pen
• Scissors

How To Do It:

Print out the teepee templates on white or colored paper. Cut along the solid black lines. Fold along the dotted lines so the bottoms align. Apply double-sided tape to the folded flap to connect the two sides of the teepee. Cut two straws into 5” pieces, taping them in a crisscross to the inside of the teepee. Cut out a banner, write a name on it, and use decorative Washi tape to affix it above the door of the teepee.

If you’re interested in more holiday crafts, inquire about upcoming workshops and classes in New York’s East End. We also do pop-up parties, entertaining the kids while you focus on hosting and conversing with your guests!

November 13^th is World Kindness Day. This international observance was introduced in 1998 by a coalition of kindness NGOs known as the World Kindness Movement. It began as a way to highlight good deeds in the community, overlooking boundaries of race and religion, to recognize the common thread of kindness that we all can share.

What Is Kindness?

Kindness is often confused with niceness or thoughtfulness. Kindness goes one step further than merely being nice. It’s a natural reaction to be nice to others who are nice to us. Kindness, though, is a proactive choice – going out of your way to cheer someone with your words and actions.

Thoughtfulness can be kind, but it’s often a word used to describe how we act toward family and friends. True kindness extends to the people in the community we may not know so well. It’s reaching out to classmates we’ve just met, neighbors we may not see often, and people of different skin colors, faiths, genders, and socioeconomic status.

8 Ways To Exercise Kindness

Of course, the best way to raise kind kids is to model it yourself – listen genuinely; put aside the chores and spend quality time when it’s needed; spend a few minutes playing; read books about kindness; observe and praise kindness in action among siblings; give random notes and gifts; emphasize the importance of recognizing friends and family on birthdays and holidays; wave and smile to strangers; find a passion project and volunteer.

Here are 8 activities to do with your child for World Kindness Day:

1. Write a note and draw a picture for the teacher. The pandemic has been particularly stressful for teachers, whether they’re working virtually, splitting time in the physical classroom, or all in. Be sure to have your child include mention of what, specifically, is likable about the teacher. When you’re done, take a photo and send by email or messenger.
2. Thank your mail carrier. Leave a note that says, “Thank you for delivering our mail each day!” USPS allows letter carriers to receive gift cards to specific retailers or eateries valued at $20 or less. FedEx does not allow deliverers cash or gift cards, but may receive gifts valued up to $75. UPS drivers have received knitted items, baked goods, and nominal gratuity tips.
3. Give out three compliments today. Give out three compliments today. For young children, it can help to write out the compliments onto note cards that they can deliver to people. Another great exercise for young children with siblings is to have them write out three nice things about a brother or sister.
4. Gift food. Make six giant chocolate chip cookies, place each one in a cellophane bag with a ribbon, including a note that says, “You’re a smart cookie!”, and drop them off to class friends or cousins. Give out bags of chips for the class with a note that says, “You’re all that – and a bag of chips!” Buy a stranger’s coffee or lunch at the drive-thru. Deliver a themed care package to an elderly neighbor – movie snacks, pasta night, chicken soup for the soul, or canned garden themed. If there are leaves or snow in your neighbor’s yard, clearing it is another random act of kindness.
5. Donate locally. Gift a copy of your favorite book to your librarian. Donate outgrown clothes to Amvets or a homeless shelter. Pack up a grocery bag of popular items for the food pantry. Give food and litter to the animal shelter.
6. Share Mother Nature’s bounty. Leave a potted plant on a loved one or neighbor’s doorstep. This time of year, you can also paint positive messages on miniature pumpkins and leave them on random doorsteps. Stop by a nursing home or senior center and give a bouquet to someone who hasn’t had a visitor in a while.
7. Be the first thought in a grandparent’s day. Have your child send a sweet message to a grandparent first thing in the morning. A simple sentiment might be, “My days are brighter because of you!” or “The morning breeze is so gentle and sweet, it reminds me of you. Wish we were together today!” Your child might sing a favorite song to share or just give their own unscripted heartfelt message in a short video clip.
8. Celebrate diversity. Kindness involves appreciating people who may have different cultures, traditions, beliefs, and preferences than ourselves. Choose a different culture to focus on each week. This week, you might serve up enchiladas with mariachi dinner music and watch “Coco” to celebrate Mexican culture. Next week, you might cook Jerk chicken while listening to steel drums and watch “Pirates of the Caribbean,” which was filmed in Jamaica. Every bit of exposure to something foreign and new helps. Little Passports is a great subscription service that sends curated boxes based on different countries from around the world. You might also consider signing up for one of our Globe Trekker classes geared toward kids 4-10 — which combines music, art, food, and games from around the world.