Building Family Bonds: One Brick at a Time

December 19, 2023/in Celebrate, Front Page Blog, Fun, Guide, Learn, Play/by Shine

Do you remember a childhood filled with toys, dress-up, and imaginative play? A global study conducted by LEGO found the average child today spends less than 2% of the week (about seven hours total) engaged in play. In fact, one in three kids enjoy their toys for less than three hours a week. Often, children are running to sports practices, music lessons, tutoring sessions, or zonked out on technology. In the hustle and bustle of our modern lives, it can be a challenge finding meaningful ways to connect as a family.

Enter LEGO: a timeless stand-out in the world of play. The simple joy of building with LEGO bricks transcends generations, bringing parents and children together in a shared experience. This holiday season, as you welcome hundreds—if not thousands—of Acrylonitrile Butadiene Styrene blocks into your house, rejoice at this opportunity to collaborate and connect.

5 Sturdy Benefits of LEGO Building Together

Everybody finds their niche. One of the remarkable aspects of LEGO is its universal appeal. There’s a theme and a difficulty level for everyone—which is an easy way to build self-esteem and confidence. Whether it’s a preschooler stacking Duplo blocks or a pre-teen assembling intricate LEGO Technic sets, the experience is enriching for all ages. Younger children develop fine motor skills and spatial awareness, while older siblings and engage in strategic problem-solving and parents find their moment of zen.

Team work makes the dream work. Many families are juggling a myriad of ages and interests. For mom Stephanie Hanna, the five-year age gap between her daughters presents a challenge at times, but much to her relief, “LEGO has something to offer for each age.” Her kids have moved from DUPLO onto LEGO Friends sets, but she loves that they’re able to sneak in meaningful discussions while exploring the imaginary lands they’ve built.

Get smarter, stronger, and more skilled. LEGO offers a unique avenue for families to train together, building manual dexterity and mind-body connections. Researchers at the University of California at San Diego found that children can use LEGOs to build their visual spatial skills—which is linked to higher GPAs and graduation rates.

It’s affordable therapy. There are Braille bricks for individuals with visual impairment. LEGOs are also used therapeutically for children with autism to enhance communication, collaboration, and physical skills. When Kathleen Jordan was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at age 60, playing with her granddaughter was the best cure. She felt her brain fog start to lift with LEGO therapy. “I started figuring out problems more quickly. For example, instead of taking a shopping cart loaded with groceries over to where I had parked my car, I would drive my car around the back of the building and unload the cart there—common-sense things like that,” she explains. But in a simpler way, the confidence was inspiring. “I realized I could build things with dimension, and that was a big aha moment for me. It was like, if I can do this, I can do anything,” she adds.

Unplug and unwind. For many, LEGO time offers a sanctuary from the digital distractions of modern life. In a world dominated by virtual experiences, the tactile nature of LEGO provides a welcome break, encouraging families to be present in the moment and fully engaged with one another. Sometimes it’s nice to turn your mind off and follow a simple set of directions or let your fingers place bricks as they may. Adults report a zen-like mindful relaxation and satisfaction in completing a LEGO build. LEGO enthusiast Marco Andre put it this way: “When I build LEGO, outside expectations disappear. No one is watching. I can follow instructions or experiment. I can go fast or go slow. I can build it alone or with family. I can be nervous, happy, anxious, or tired… LEGO is my ritual of connection, a bridge to simpler times. A way to achieve peace.”

Want to play with LEGOs over winter break? The Shine Studio’s got plenty to share. Drop us an email.

Harvesting Confidence: A Guide to Helping Children Overcome Negative Self-Talk During Pre-Adolescence

November 28, 2023/in Front Page Blog, Guide, Learn/by Shine

In the complex tapestry of childhood emotions, there are moments when a child may feel overwhelmed, sad, or discouraged. As parents, we want to respond with sensitivity and the right words to soothe these growing pains and support our children’s wellbeing. But when faced with a heaping plate of a child’s monumental emotions, it’s easy to feel as though your best efforts are falling short.

This guide aims to provide insights and practical tips for effective communicate techniques when your child is feeling down. By creating a safe and open space for dialogue, you can deepen your understanding of their emotions and strengthen your connection with them during challenging times.

When Does Negativity Peak?

Challenges related to self-esteem and social issues often surface around 10 years of age. In the brain, a big shift is taking place as the myelin sheath surrounding the neurons begins to form. This means a budding ability to engage in more abstract thinking and exercise greater impulse control — but it also doesn’t happen overnight.

Math may feel like a breeze on Monday and a nightmare on Wednesday. Or they may impress you with their responsibility one day and make a boneheaded mistake the next. Hormonal changes in the brain that will eventually trigger puberty sometimes make children feel out of control.

Around this time, children enter into a complex developmental stage marked by:

Identity Formation: At the age of 10, children are exploring who they are, what they like, and where they fit into the larger social circle. This process can be challenging as they explore various interests, peer groups, and societal expectations — all of which can impact their self-perception.

Social Comparison: As children become more aware of themselves and others, they may begin comparing themselves to their peers. This social comparison can lead to self-doubt and a heightened awareness of differences in abilities, appearance, or social status.

Increasing Independence: It’s natural for pre-teens to seek more solitude and independence. Around this age, children may go to play dates or birthday parties without mom and dad, or attend their first sleepover. Exposure to more diverse environments and interactions can lead to a greater need for social skills and adaptability.

Academic Pressures: The transition to upper elementary grades may bring increased academic pressures. As academic expectations rise, some children may experience stress and anxiety related to their performance, affecting their self-esteem. Children who have breezed through their early elementary years may come up against material they find unfamiliar or difficult.

Changing Friendships: Friendships become more complex during this stage. Children may experience shifting friend groups, the emergence of cliques, and changing social dynamics. This fluidity can be unsettling and may impact a child’s sense of belonging.

Peer Influence: As peer influence intensifies, children may be more susceptible to the opinions and judgments of their peers. The desire for social acceptance can lead to conformity and a fear of standing out or self-esteem issues.

Body Image Awareness: Some children go through growth spurts and begin showing physical signs of puberty around the age of 10, leading them to compare themselves to societal ideals.

Emotional Sensitivity: During this developmental stage, children often experience emotions more intensely, making them more vulnerable to the impact of social interactions and self-reflection. They’re also more adept at reading the subtle nonverbal cues of others.

Bullying and Teasing: Unfortunately, instances of bullying and teasing may emerge during the pre-adolescent years. Negative experiences with peers can significantly impact a child’s self-esteem and contribute to social anxieties.

Parental Expectations: Like academic pressure, parental expectations can influence a child’s perception of their worth. Striving to meet these expectations may lead to stress and self-doubt, particularly if a child perceives a misalignment between their achievements and parental expectations.

Understanding these factors can help you lend a more sympathetic ear to your child’s struggle and respond with empathy. Conveying genuine empathy is easier when you have the right script on hand.

Questions to Explore How and Why Your Child is Feeling Down

Asking open-ended questions can help you gain insight into your child’s thoughts and feelings. Here are 10 ideas for open-ended questions to understand what might be triggering negative self-talk or low self-esteem:

“Can you tell me more about how you’ve been feeling lately?”
“What part, specifically, do you find difficult or challenging right now?”
“Are there situations or activities that make you feel more confident or less confident?”
“What thoughts go through your mind when you face something that feels tough for you?”
“How do you think your friends perceive you, and does that align with how you see yourself?”
“What are some things that make you feel really good about yourself?”
“Can you share a ‘wow’ and a ‘pow’ from your day?“
“Is there anything you wish you could do better, and if so, why?”
“Can you share a moment when you felt really proud, supported, or happy?”
“What do you think makes a person valuable or special, including yourself?”

These questions are designed to encourage your child to express themselves openly, providing you with valuable insights into their emotions and perceptions. Remember to listen actively and non-judgmentally, creating a safe space for them to share their thoughts and feelings.

How To Listen in a Nonjudgmental Way

As parents, we come hardwired with certain tendencies from our own childhood. Your instinct might be to shout, to lecture, or to brush off your child’s statements as “ludicrous.” Next time your child is down and out, try starting with a general observation or statement of support, such as:

“I’ve noticed you seem a bit down.”
“Your feelings are important to me.”
“I can see that you’re going through a tough time.”
“It seems something is bothering you. I really want to understand.”
“Feelings are a natural part of life, and I want to understand yours better.”
“I’m here to listen, not to judge. Whatever you share with me, I’ll do my best to support you.”

Then, follow up by asking for more information with questions like:

“Can you tell me what’s been on your mind lately?”
“Would you like to talk about it?”
” Is there something specific that’s making you feel this way?”
“What’s been going on that’s been on your mind?”
“I care about you and your well-being.”

Sometimes it’s okay to leave the ball in your child’s court, saying:

“I’m here for you. When you feel ready to talk, I’d love to hear what’s going on.”
“It’s okay to feel the way you’re feeling. I’m here to listen and support you any way I can.”
“I’m here to help if you have any questions or anything you’d like to talk about.”
“Let’s talk about it, and I’ll do my best to support you through whatever you’re facing.”
“You don’t have to go through this alone. I’d love to know more if you’re comfortable sharing.”

And leave it at that.

The key is to create a safe space, encourage open communication, foster trust, and reassure your child that their feelings are valid.

Ways To Build Your Child Back Up

Here are several constructive ways to gift your child with a cornucopia of self-esteem building blocks:

Model Positive Self-Talk: Demonstrate positive self-talk in your own life. Be mindful of the language you use when facing challenges. Modeling resilience and a positive attitude toward setbacks sets a powerful example for your child.

Positive affirmations you may incorporate into your everyday life include:

“I can handle this, one step at a time.”
- “Mistakes are opportunities to learn and grow.”
- “Practice makes progress.”
- “I am capable and resourceful. I can find solutions.”
- “I choose to focus on what I can control.”
- “I am resilient. I bounce back from challenges stronger than before.”
- “My determination’s the sky. My challenges are the weather.”
- “I embrace change as a natural part of growth.”
- “My worth is not determined by one moment or one outcome.”
- “I am not my work.”
- “I can’t do it… YET.”
- “Every day is a new chance to learn and improve.”

Encourage and Acknowledge Efforts: Reinforce the idea that effort is valuable, regardless of the outcome. Praise your child for their hard work and perseverance in various activities. This helps them recognize the importance of the process and fosters a positive attitude toward challenges. Knowing you’re watching and rooting for them can be a beacon amid the surging tides.

Promote a Growth Mindset: Teach your child that abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work. Emphasize the power of “yet.” This mindset shift encourages resilience and a willingness to embrace learning and improvement. Let your child know what you’re working on learning or overcoming, and explain that we never stop evolving.

Set Realistic Goals Together: Collaborate with your child to set achievable goals. Break down larger goals into smaller, manageable steps. Celebrate their successes along the way, reinforcing a sense of accomplishment and building confidence.

Explore Cultural Differences: Attend festivals, visit museums, and take courses that promote diversity. Ideally, you’ll explore your own cultural traditions, and also appreciate the uniqueness of cultures that are different. The Shine Blog is a great resource for learning about cultural events happening around the East End and the Hamptons.

Promote Creative Expression: Encourage your child to explore their creative side. Whether through art, music, writing, or other forms of expression, creative activities boost confidence and provide a positive outlet for emotions. Consider enrolling them in workshops that nurture their artistic interests.

Celebrate Individuality: Reinforce the idea that everyone is unique and special in their own way. Help your child recognize and embrace their individual strengths and talents. This acceptance of individuality contributes to a positive self-image.

Provide Constructive Feedback: Offer feedback that is specific, constructive, and focuses on improvement. Highlight what your child did well and offer guidance on areas for growth. This approach encourages a positive mindset and a willingness to learn from experiences.

Go the Extra Mile: Help Your Child Find Something To Be Grateful For.

In addition to the communication techniques described here, another way to build up your child’s self-esteem is to enroll in a class, camp, or workshop aligned with your child’s passions. Our programs are designed to bring out your child’s inner light and provide creative, enriching experiences that allow children to explore their potential in a supportive and encouraging environment.

Reach out to learn more.

Celebrating World’s Children Day on November 20th

November 16, 2023/in Celebrate, Front Page Blog, Guide, Learn, Taste/by Shine

On November 20th, every year since 1954, the world comes together to celebrate World’s Children Day. What better way to honor the importance of children’s rights and well-being than to plan a special activity with your young ones? In the vibrant East End of New York, there are countless ways to make this day memorable and meaningful for your kids.

Give the Gift of Quality Time

Above all, the best gift you can give your child on World’s Children Day is your time and attention. Simply wishing them a “Happy World Children’s Day” and setting the day aside for them — listening to their stories, playing their favorite games, or baking together — shows that you love and cherish them.

Encourage Empathy and Compassion

As a parent, teaching your child empathy and compassion is one of the most significant actions you’ll ever take in life. Younger children respond well to the power of storytelling, so you might take this opportunity to explore important themes like kindness, diversity, and acceptance. Or you might read with your older kids UNICEF’s universal rights of a child to emphasize the importance of having rights.

Give Back to the Community

The giving spirit starts at home. UNICEF recommends wearing blue to show solidarity with children and raise awareness about their rights — but that’s not all you can do! Acknowledge the rights and well-being of children around the world by donating money to make a difference, organizing a small charitable event in your neighborhood, or collecting food, clothing, and Christmas gift donations for a local children’s charity.

Participate in Educational Activities

Learning and play go hand in hand. World’s Children Day is an opportunity to engage in educational activities that are both fun and informative. Visit museums like the Children’s Museum of the East End or the South Fork Natural History Museum, where they can explore, learn, and play. We partner with local institutions for field trips and parties around the New York’s East End.

Explore the Great Outdoors

Health, water, food, and environment are among a child’s essential rights. Celebrate World’s Children Day by bundling up and taking a walk around one of the area’s most beautiful parks — like Montauk Point State Park or Hither Hills State Park. These experiences can be eye-opening for your little ones and teach them about the importance of preserving the environment.

Discover Different Cultures

We may be far from New York City’s melting pot of cultures with Chinatown or Little Italy just a subway ride away, but you can make crafts, cook cultural cuisines, read books, and listen to music that celebrates the unique contributions of world cultures. In fact, our blog is filled with ideas!

Visit The Shine Studio: Where Creativity Meets Fun

The Shine Studio in Bridgehampton is dedicated to nurturing creativity and empathy in children. We cater to ages 2-10 and a variety of interests from art and culture, to STEAM and sports. On World’s Children Day, we welcome you to join us for a class, workshop, or drop-in session that aligns with your child’s specific interests. Whether you spend the day at the Shine Studio or not, there are plenty of ways to make this day meaningful and memorable for your whole family.

World’s Children Day is a fantastic opportunity to celebrate and advocate for the rights and well-being of children. Whether it’s exploring museums, embracing diversity, or simply spending quality time together, every effort you make counts toward creating a brighter future for your children.

What to Do When Your Child’s a Daydreamer

October 24, 2023/in Front Page Blog, Guide/by Shine

Ever wonder what your child does at school all day? Believe it or not, your child spends about a quarter of the time at school daydreaming! This news may not be exactly what teachers want to hear, but it’s unrealistic to expect children to fully focus 100% of the time. After all, adults spend as much as 47% of their days with a wandering mind. While kids may not be worrying about the economy or household chores, they are thinking about eating, watching TV or videos, football, and Harry Potter.

Why Do Kids Daydream?

Young children daydream for a variety of reasons – some better than others:

They’re depressed or anxious. Does your child cry often? Have low energy? Display extreme sensitivity to failure and have trouble maintaining social ties?
They’re unchallenged. Gifted and talented kids may find school tedious and boring. An under-stimulating environment can make it difficult to pay attention.
They’re over-challenged. On the flip side, children tend to tune out when they find school work to be flustering or overly complex.
They’re creative. Is your child an artist, a writer, or musician? Great imaginations can be tough to wrangle—and that’s ok! It’s simply part of certain individuals’ personalities.

Pros and Cons of Daydreaming

Much attention has been paid to the cons of daydreaming. Social scientists believe adults who daydream a lot are generally “unhappier,” although happiness is a fairly relative term – and other research indicates that daydreams make a person happier when the topics are both pleasant and meaningful. Studies also show daydreamers have lower working memory capacity, score worse on IQ tests, and make more mistakes on average.

However, there are upsides to letting your attention drift:

It’s an essential stepping stone. Kids often entertain autobiographical thoughts, forming a sense of identity and imagining potential careers.
It’s a predictor of creative achievement. In one study, elementary fantasies were found to be a greater predictor of creative achievement in adulthood than grades or IQ.
It lessens boredom. Test subjects reported higher levels of happiness when they daydreamed during the 45 minutes it took to complete a very tedious task.
It’s necessary for innovation. The unconscious mind is a creative wellspring where many day-to-day issues can be resolved—creatively—without much obvious effort.
Kids who daydream perform better. Periods of inward inflection incorporated into the school day can decrease anxiety, boost test scores, and improve emotional regulation.
Daydreamers are more confident. One key function of daydreaming is to “keep your life’s agenda in front of you”—to rehearse new situations and learn from past mistakes.
The brain needs to recoup. It’s no secret that kids are bombarded with technology these days—and that this technology can be overstimulating. Inward thinking resets the mind.
Brain health depends upon the unconscious. This “default mode network ” plays a pivotal role in memory consolidation, planning, impulse control, and brain function.

Daydreaming is “an underdeveloped part of our cognitive toolkit,” according to University of Florida Psychology Professor Erin Westgate, and a coping mechanism for the rigors of everyday life. In short, imagining new realities is part of what makes us distinctly human.

Should I Worry?

Daydreams aren’t typically a cause for concern – unless they interfere with your child’s academics or self-esteem development.

Inattentiveness Disorder

If your child is struggling in school, an evaluation with a mental health professional can help your child get on a 504 or IEP plan to work at a more comfortable pace and overcome academic challenges. You might also consider asking the teacher if your child can move seats to be closer to the front, where it is easier to pay attention without as many distractions. Having the support of a medical professional might mean more breaks for your child during the day, which can improve focus.

Signs of inattentiveness disorder, which is on the ADHD spectrum, include:

Frequently misplaces belongings
Trouble organizing or decluttering
Forgetting often, with trouble learning something new
Easily distracted with difficulty focusing on one thing at a time
Boredom and switching between activities every couple minutes
Difficulty completing and turning in classwork or homework assignments
Doesn’t listen or respond to others when spoken to
Struggling to follow multi-step instructions
Becomes easily confused when coming out of a daydream

Most children are diagnosed between the ages of 4 and 7, and respond well to a combination of medication and behavioral therapy.

Maladaptive Daydreaming

Up to 4.3% of students are believed to suffer from maladaptive daydreaming, which can be linked to depression, anxiety, or obsessive-compulsive disorder. Their daydreams may be ruminations of death, abuse, trauma, or other unpleasant topics. In some cases, daydreams can be a form of disassociation. In this case, it’s crucial to seek out a cognitive behavioral therapist for coping mechanisms to minimize disruptions to daily life.

How To Help Your Child Focus

Even if you don’t have concerns about attention deficit disorder or maladaptive daydreaming, you may want to help your child better alternate between periods of daydreaming and focus.

Try the following:

Slow down. Making a house rule that children should have reading or unstructured play time after school, rather than racing to TV or tablets.
Reduce distractions. Create a quiet space for homework, keeping other siblings out of the area during work time. Consider short bursts of work, followed by breaks.
Promote a contemplative mindset. Let your child know it’s okay not to be “productive” every minute of the day, and that some daydreaming can be a worthwhile activity.
Take family walks or hikes. Get in touch with the world after school, after dinner, or on weekends. Play leaves, plant a garden, build a snowman—get outside and explore.
Increase high-focus hobbies. Creative outlets like art, theatre, or learning an instrument can be great outlets for self-expression. Swimming, running, karate, and yoga are great physical activities for daydreamers. Learning to play chess can encourage “constructive” forms of daydreaming like planning ahead. Note-taking, journaling, and mindful meditation are a few other worthwhile pursuits for daydreamers.
Ask questions. Encourage your child to share what he or she was thinking about. Look for opportunities to connect one-on-one—like while tossing a baseball together, driving the car, or baking. By communicating, your child transcends from a world of inward thoughts to an external world shared by others.
Track daydreaming. Explain the importance of regulating focus at school, adding that there are times to daydream and times to pay attention. One exercise clinicians try is to have children make a tally on a Post-It note every time they catch themselves daydreaming in class. This boosts awareness of the behavior. When a mark is made, children are told to think to themselves, “Look at the teacher” to redirect focus. You might incentivize your child by offering a treat like popcorn when there are, say, less than 20 tallies at the end of a homework period.
Listen. Play classical music in the house, which is linked to increases in concentration.
Be consistent. Set reasonable goals, expectations, and routines. Patterns will help your child switch between tasks.Aim to have healthy meals prepared around the same time every day and maintain a consistent bedtime schedule with 9-12 hours of rest.
Improve nutrition. Food fuels a healthy mind. Eating breakfast improves attentiveness and short-term memory function. Consider a combination of high-fiber fruit, whole grains, and high-protein eggs or dairy. Avoid sugary cereals or high-carb waffles. Later in the day, good choices include green leafy vegetables, high-quality fats like nuts and olive oil, lean proteins like fish and chicken, and high-fiber beans and berries.
Offer praise. Let your child know when you see progress—and that you’re proud!

Shine Welcomes Daydreamers

If you’re looking for something fun to do with your little daydreamer in NYC and the East End, come visit us at The Shine Studio where we have engaging workshops, classes, camps, and parties that appeal to a variety of interests – from art and acting to culture and cooking. Check out our Fall 2023 calendar.

12 Reasons to Introduce Your Child to Photography as a Hobby

October 21, 2023/in Front Page Blog, Guide/by Shine

As parents, we all know that time flies fast and our children are transforming – physically, mentally, and emotionally – from day to day. But why should we be the only ones chronicling this journey? Introducing photography as a hobby for your child is part of a powerful process of building self-esteem.

“We cannot underestimate the power of photographs to keep us feeling linked to others and belonging,” says Professor Geoff Beattie, Head of School and Dean of Psychological Studies at the University of Manchester. He adds, “For children in particular, looking at photographs is part of the socializing process: learning who you are and where you fit into the family.” By displaying their photos, we show our pride – and by commending the photos they take, we double-down on the sentiment.

Consider the many advantages of encouraging your child to explore photography:

1. Enhanced Creativity

Photography encourages children to think creatively and see the world from different perspectives. They learn to frame shots, experiment with lighting, and find unique angles to tell a visual story. Creative thinking benefits them in various aspects of life, from problem-solving to artistic expression.

2. Improved Observation Skills

Photography requires keen observation of details, patterns, and moments that others might overlook. As children hone their skills through photography, they become more attuned to the world around them, which can lead to greater situational awareness and appreciation of their surroundings.

3. Self-Expression

Photography allows children to express themselves in a visual language. They can convey their emotions, thoughts, and ideas through the images they capture. This connection can be particularly valuable for children who may find it challenging to express themselves verbally.

4. Boosted Self-Esteem

As children develop their photography skills and produce images they are proud of, it can significantly boost their self-esteem and sense of accomplishment. Positive feedback and recognition for their work can further reinforce their self-confidence.

5. Patience and Discipline

Photography teaches patience and discipline, as it often requires waiting for the right moment, adjusting settings, and paying attention to detail. These qualities can translate into improved focus and perseverance in other areas of life.

6. Storytelling Skills

Photography is a form of visual storytelling. Encouraging your child to narrate stories through their photos can enhance their storytelling abilities, which is an effective form of communication.

7. Technical Proficiency

Learning photography involves understanding camera settings, composition, and the basics of image editing. These technical skills can be applied in various academic and professional contexts, from graphic design to science projects.

8. Appreciation for the Arts

Through photography, children can develop a deeper appreciation for the visual arts. They learn about famous photographers, different photographic styles, and the history of photography, broadening their cultural horizons.

9. Connection to Nature

Photography often leads children to spend more time outdoors and develop a closer connection to nature. They become more attuned to the beauty of the natural world, which can foster a sense of environmental stewardship.

10. Memories and Keepsakes

Photography allows children to capture precious moments and create lasting memories. Looking back on their photographs can evoke nostalgia and serve as a personal archive of their life experiences.

11. Social Interaction

Photography can also be a social activity. Children can join photography clubs, attend workshops, or share their work on social media platforms. This can help them connect with like-minded peers and develop social skills.

12. Career Opportunities

While not every child who takes up photography will pursue it as a career, it can open doors to various professional opportunities. Photography skills are in demand in fields such as journalism, advertising, marketing, and the arts.

Introducing your child to photography as a hobby offers a wealth of benefits beyond preserving memories. Snapping photos nurtures creativity, hones valuable life skills, encourages self-expression, and serves as a source of joy and wonder as your child explores the world through the camera lens.

“Click, Snap, Flash” is Shine’s new photography class for kids ages 5-11. Students will work with a professional photographer to view the world with a creative eye and capture the perfect shot, while creating a portfolio they can proudly show family, friends, teachers, and classmates. Enrollment is always open. Contact us to learn more.

Fall Fun: East End’s Pumpkin Patches and Crafty Ideas

October 3, 2023/in Celebrate, Front Page Blog, Fun, Guide, Make/by Shine

No October is complete without a trip to a pumpkin patch. Fortunately, the East End has some of the best pumpkin patches around, offering the perfect setting for fall family adventures.

Where To Go

Acres of pumpkins in all shapes and sizes await eager pickers at Hank’s PumpkinTown in Water Mill. Beyond pumpkins, the farm offers a corn maze, gem mining, apple picking, giant slides, train rides, and a playground for little ones. Be sure to savor a fresh cider donut and take a bag of roasted corn to go.

At Lewin Farms in Calverton, families can hop on a scenic hayride through the rolling farmland to select the perfect pumpkin. After you’ve found the perfect one, see if you can find your way through the 5-acre corn maze. Wrap up the afternoon with fruit ice cream, pies, roast corn, and craft beer from the market.

Fink’s Country Farm in Wading River offers ample fun for little ones with unlimited hayrides, a corn maze, an apple cannon, bounce pillow, animatronic chicken shows, kiddie train, pony rides, live music, and character appearances. Outside food is permitted in the picnic area.

With locations in Jamesport, Mattituck, and Riverhead, PumpkinLand and Barnyard Adventure Park at Harbes Family Farm offer plenty to do after you’ve gotten your gourd. Choose from gnome, Wizard of Oz, Robin Hood, or Halloween themed mazes. Sample award-winning wine, take a musical hayride tour, or watch the pig races.

Get Crafty

Once you have your fresh-picked pumpkin, crafting is a fantastic way to engage kids in creative and hands-on activities during the fall season. Here are some fun and easy ideas to get started:

Pumpkin Painting: Let your kids’ imaginations run wild by providing paints and brushes for them to transform pumpkins into colorful works of art. They can paint faces, abstract designs, or even their favorite characters.

Pumpkin Carving: For older children with adult supervision, pumpkin carving is a classic fall activity. It’s an opportunity to teach them basic carving skills while creating spooky or whimsical jack-o’-lanterns.

Pumpkin Decorating with Nature: Gather leaves, acorns, pinecones, and other natural materials to decorate your pumpkins. Kids can use colored glue to create beautiful designs.

Pumpkin Seeds: Not exactly a craft, but it’s worth mentioning you can rinse the scooped-out seeds, salt them, roast them in the oven at 350 for 15 minutes, and eat them.

Pumpkin Planters: Hollow out a small pumpkin, adding soil and seeds, to create a mini planter. Kids can watch their own little garden grow.

Pumpkin Bird Feeder: Cut out a portion of the pumpkin and fill it with birdseed. Hang it from a tree branch and observe the local wildlife enjoying their autumn feast.

Pumpkin Candle Holders: Carefully carve out the top of the pumpkin, creating a hollow space. Place a tea light candle inside for a warm and cozy fall ambiance.

Pumpkin Masks: Cut eye and mouth holes in a pumpkin and let kids decorate it as a fun and festive mask for dress-up play.

Benefits of Crafting With Real Pumpkins

Crafting with pumpkins isn’t just a fun fall activity; it also offers numerous educational benefits for kids.

Fine motor skill building: While painting, carving, and decorating pumpkins, children enhance their fine motor skills as they carefully handle brushes, carving tools, and craft materials.

Self-expression: Pumpkin crafting activities encourage creativity and self-expression, allowing kids to explore their artistic talents and enjoy the season.

Education: Pumpkin seed art and planters introduce kids to basic principles of biology as they observe seed germination and plant growth.

Confidence building: Foster a sense of pride, self-esteem and accomplishment as your child showcases a pumpkin creation.

Want more ways to enjoy the season? Stop by The Shine Studio for classes, camps, and crafternoons.

Celebrating Hispanic Heritage Month: Family-Friendly Activities

September 10, 2023/in Celebrate, Front Page Blog, Fun, Guide, Learn, Make, Taste/by Shine

As the leaves begin to change color and the air carries a crisp autumn breeze, September marks the start of a vibrant and culturally significant time of the year: Hispanic Heritage Month.

This celebration, spanning from September 15 to October 15, invites people across the United States to recognize, appreciate, and honor the rich cultural heritage and contributions of Spanish-speaking Americans.

Families in Long Island’s East End can partake in a variety of activities that not only celebrate this heritage but also provide an opportunity to learn, savor delicious cuisine, and connect with the local Hispanic community.

Long Island Hispanic Celebrations and Festivals

Hispanic Heritage Month in the East End kicks off with a series of lively celebrations, festivals, and events that showcase the vibrancy of Hispanic culture. To celebrate, you might consider attending:

Parades – Main Street in Patchogue Village comes to life with a bilingual mix of music and brilliantly festooned Hispanic dancers in the second-annual Hispanic Heritage parade, taking place at noon on September 24^th. The parade is a colorful, energetic, and fantastic opportunity for kids to witness the pageantry of Hispanic culture.

Cultural Performances – Visit the Patchogue Theatre for the Performing Arts on September 16^th from 6-10 pm for live music, dance performances, and a delicious Latin buffet. This type of event provides a captivating way for families to experience artistic expressions of Hispanic heritage.

Art Exhibits – Explore art exhibitions that showcase the perspectives of Hispanic and Latino artists. From September 14^th through December 17^th, the Long Island Museum presents “SOMOS/WE ARE,” a presentation of works from over 80 Long Island Latinx artists, spanning a variety of creative styles—from classic to contemporary.

Savoring Hispanic Cuisine

Food is a universal language that brings people together, and Hispanic Heritage Month provides an excellent opportunity for families to savor the flavors of Mexican, Puerto Rican, Cuban, South and Central American, or Spanish cuisine. As a family, you might:

Cook Together: Consider preparing a Hispanic-inspired meal at home and letting your kids participate in the process. Try these kid-approved Top 5 Puerto Rican Recipes or Top 5 Recipes for Cinco de Mayo. Discuss the cultural significance of the dishes you’re making and put on a mariachi band to make the occasion special.

Visit Local Hispanic Restaurants: Seek out Hispanic-owned restaurants and eateries—like Maria’s Mexican, a kid-friendly establishment in Nesconset, voted “the Best Latin American Restaurant on Long Island.” Another great place to try is El Rincon Criollo in Riverhead, where children can sink their teeth into their first Cubano sandwich, empanada, and plantain in a vibrant, artistic setting. Sampling the authentic tastes of Latin American and Hispanic cuisine offers a delightful dining experience for the entire family.

Embrace Food Festival Flavors – Local food festivals treat the palate to a variety of flavors in one place. Encourage your children to try empanadas, tamales, or arroz con pollo. The Famous Food Festival “Taste the World” Long Island will return to Tanger Outlets in Deer Park for Columbus Day Weekend (October 6^th to 9^th). While not exclusive to Hispanic cuisine, the festival features at least one vendor from Cuba, Colombia, Guatemala, Argentina, and Peru, as well as four from Mexico and five from Spain. In addition, kids are treated to live music, cooking demos, mini golf, face painting, henna tattoos, virtual reality, rock climbing, and a haunted house.

Connecting with the Hispanic Community

Hispanic Heritage Month is also an ideal time to connect with the local Hispanic community, fostering understanding and friendship. To help your child along, you might consider:

Spanish immersion classes – Shine offers a theme-based Spanish immersion class for kids ages 2-10. Through visual arts, music, movement, storytelling, and games, participants engage in the richness of the Spanish language and gain a better understanding of the culture. From constructing Mexican luchador masks and Colombian molas, children will have enriching experiences and take-home items that remind them that it’s great to celebrate diversity.

Volunteering – Engaging your family in volunteer opportunities is another way to support the Hispanic community while promoting empathy. A few local organizations include: Maureen’s Haven in Riverhead (where they offer Spanish classes and roughly a third of those benefited are Hispanic); the Hispanic Counseling Center in Hempstead (which offers mental health counseling, substance abuse, and educational programs); and Long Island Cares (which serves food to predominantly Hispanic and African-American communities).

Stronger Together

Hispanic Heritage Month offers East End families a unique opportunity to celebrate, learn, and connect. By participating in local celebrations, savoring Hispanic cuisine, and engaging with the Hispanic community, families create meaningful experiences that promote cultural understanding and appreciation. Whether through dance, food, or art, this month invites everyone to embrace the vibrant tapestry of Hispanic heritage and its enduring impact on American culture.

Come celebrate with us at The Shine Studio in Bridgehampton.

The Summer of Canadian Wildfires: How To Explain the Effects of Climate Change With Your Child

August 6, 2023/in Front Page Blog, Guide/by Shine

The summer of 2023 has been marked by devastating wildfires sweeping throughout Canada, sending the smell of barbecue and a thick, apocalyptic haze that affected more than a third of the U.S. population. These wildfires have not only caused immense ecological damage but also left a lasting impact on the lives of communities, wildlife, and the environment.

As parents and caregivers, it can be challenging to explain the gravity of these events to young children and help them navigate feelings of fear, confusion, and concern. In this blog, we explore how to approach the topic of climate change with your child, explain the recent Canadian wildfires, and empower them to take positive actions to protect the environment.

Choose Age-Appropriate Language and Concepts

Younger children may not fully understand complex scientific terms, but they can comprehend simple explanations about how human activities impact the Earth. Out of the Fires: A Journal of Resilience and Recovery After Disaster is a helpful and inspiring resource for parents and kids alike. Use this opportunity to discuss the importance of strength and resilience when facing any type of change.

Connect to Their Experiences

Children often understand concepts better when they can relate them to their own experiences. Talk about the recent heatwaves, changes in weather patterns, or extreme events they might have noticed in their local area. Ask questions and encourage them to share their observations and feelings about these occurrences. You might ask an older child to write an essay in response to the question, “Do You Experience Climate Anxiety?” or have a younger child divide a piece of paper in two and draw a picture of a polluted world vs. a clean world.

Encourage Questions and Provide Honest Answers

Children are naturally curious, and they may have many questions about the wildfires and climate change. Encourage them to ask questions and provide honest, age-appropriate answers. If you don’t know the answer to a question, take the opportunity to learn together. While it can be scary to think of a fire that can’t or won’t be extinguished, explain that, in some cases, allowing the fires to burn is part of the recommended long-term solution.

Teach Compassion and Empathy

Teach your child about the importance of compassion and empathy towards those who have been impacted. Donate to the Canadian Red Cross to show that there are ways ordinary citizens can help members of affected communities cope.

Highlight the Importance of Climate Action

Empower your child by explaining that everyone can make a positive impact on the environment. Discuss simple lifestyle changes such as reducing waste, conserving energy, and supporting sustainable practices. Encourage them to be eco-conscious and proactive in protecting nature.

Engage in Environmental Activities

Engaging in hands-on environmental activities can help your child connect with nature and develop a deeper understanding of the impact of climate change. Consider planting a tree together, starting a small garden, or participating in a local beach or park cleanup. Attend or host an event that raises donations for the World Wildlife Federation.

Focus on Hope and Solutions

While it’s essential to be honest about the challenges posed by climate change, it’s equally important to focus on hope and solutions. For instance, you can choose an indoor activity when the air quality alert is “unhealthy for sensitive groups,” and you can install an air purification system in your home. Share positive environmental news stories of individuals and communities taking action to address climate change and protect the planet.

Take a Break from Anxiety

Lastly, it can be helpful to move past anxiety by focusing inward with relaxing art projects and getting out to socialize. The Shine Studio in Sag Harbor is always open to you and your family. With classes, workshops, parties, and camps geared toward ages 0-12, there’s never a dull moment. We can also send creative supplies to your home to keep the kids busy and lighthearted. Learn more.

Be Sure To Pack In These Sweet End-of-Summer Celebrations

August 3, 2023/in Celebrate, Front Page Blog, Fun, Guide, Play/by Shine

August is bittersweet—the Sunday afternoon of summer—where the days are sunny, hot, long, and bursting, but the pressure is on to pack this last month of carefree family time with fun.

If you’re looking for ideas, let the many family-friendly national holidays be your guide. Here are special moments you can celebrate in August:

National Coast Guard Day – Friday, August 4^th: Model appreciation for the United States Coast Guard by visiting the Long Island Maritime Museum in West Sayville. Here children can learn about our region’s maritime history, including the Coast Guard’s role in safeguarding local waters.

National Friendship Day – Sunday, August 6^th (First Sunday): Celebrate the importance of friendship by spending quality time with friends and family. Organize a picnic, play games, or encourage your children to create handmade friendship cards for their pals.

National Book Lovers Day – Wednesday, August 9^th: Encourage a love for reading by having a family book exchange. The John Jermain Memorial Library in Sag Habor is offering a free bookmark craft and trail mix from 12-3 — no registration required.

National S’mores Day – August 10^th: Gather around a campfire and indulge in this classic, delicious treat. Sharing stories and laughter under the stars makes magical childhood memories. (Check out our camping post for more ideas!)

National Relaxation Day – Tuesday, August 15^th: Take the opportunity to unwind as a family. Plan a relaxing day at the park or the beach. Order a pizza and spend the night at home watching movies with cozy blankets and favorite films.

National Tell a Joke Day – Wednesday, August 16^th: Spend the day sharing laughter and joy. Watch a funny movie like “Honey I Shrunk the Kids,” “Minions,” or “Monsters Inc.” Read a book together—like LOL 101: A Kid’s Guide To Writing Jokes, then create a family-friendly joke competition to see who can come up with the funniest. If you have older kids, consider having everyone in the family write a standup comedy routine to perform.

National Honey Bee Day – August 19^th (Third Saturday): Read Charlotte Milner’s “The Bee Book” to teach your child the significance of honey bees and pollinators in our ecosystem. You might plant bee-friendly, late-blooming flowers like Black-eyed Susans, Sedums, Zinnias, or Cosmos. Or you can pick up local honey at the Montauk Farmer’s Market to support local beekeepers at Sag Harbor Honey. Try this tasty baklava recipe to make the most of it!

National Aviation Day – Saturday, August 19^th: Gather your tub of popcorn and watch Animated Hero Classics: The Wright Brothers as a family to celebrate the achievements of the famous aviation pioneers. Alternately, older kids may be interested in the Smithsonian Channel’s First In Flight. You can also build paper airplanes and take a road trip to the American Airpower Museum in Farmingdale, which lets kids tour cockpits and features many interactive exhibits.

National Dog Day – Saturday, August 26^th: If you have a furry friend, celebrate this day by taking them for a long walk, playing in the park, or giving them extra love and attention. Watch a dog-filled movie like “Beethoven,” “Space Dogs: Adventure to the Moon,” “The Secret Life of Pets,” or “Homeward Bound.” If you don’t have a dog yet, it could be a great excuse to consider fostering or adopting from a local shelter—or volunteering at one.

Love a good celebration? So do we!

Consider adding a stop to the Shine Studio to your end-of-summer bucket list this year. Our fun organized activities combine art, music, culture, and play to educate, entertain, and inspire. Choose from courses, workshops, parties, day camps, and drop-ins. Contact us to learn more.

Summer Strategies for Building Healthy Tech Habits

July 31, 2023/in Front Page Blog, Guide, Learn/by Shine

Screen time has become as synonymous with summer as ice cream and swimming pools. Deep down, your gut is telling you: I don’t want my kids on screens all day every day. But screens are also the supreme pacifier that can give us a much-needed break. While a 30-minute screen time limit all summer long may not seem feasible, this article explores alternative schedules and provides strategies to foster healthy tech habits.

How Much Screen Time is Too Much?

While the exact threshold for healthy screen time varies by individual, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends abstaining from screens before age two and limiting time to one hour for kids ages 2-5. Children ages six and above can have consistent limits based on their parents’ discretion. Striking a balance between screen time and other activities, such as outdoor play, reading, and social interactions, is essential to ensure holistic childhood development.

“The reality is that most families will go through periods of heavy and light screen use, but as long as there’s a balance, kids should be just fine,” says Common Sense Media. They emphasize that it’s not just the quantity of screen time that matters, but the quality.

For instance, some apps are built for outdoor fun—like the SkySafari stargazer app or Smart Bird ID scavenger hunt game. Kids can use games like ThinkRolls or Cut the Rope to problem-solve or Prodigy and ABCmouse to reinforce learnings in math and reading.

“If it’s a rainy day and the kids are going to play dance game rather than Pac-Man, great,” says Seattle Pediatrician Dr. Wendy Sue Swanson—though screens shouldn’t replace playing sports with friends to build esteem, camaraderie, and sportsmanship.

Alternative Activities: Encouraging Well-rounded Experiences

As you might imagine, simply decrying and denying screen time is a recipe for failure. Instead, introduce healthy alternatives to screen time. Think of family rituals that are easy to build into the routine—like an after-dinner bike ride or board game session. Have your child learn to cook alongside you at dinner time. Work together to design a cozy corner with books and stuffed animals for morning reading sessions—and an art table for after-lunch drawing time.

Other engaging screen time alternatives include:

Offline Summer Fun: Plan weekend hikes at various local parks, trips to the science museum or zoo, and fun group sports like roller skating, laser tag, or bowling. Put amusement parks, ice cream parlors, playground play dates, beach swims, and movie premieres on your calendar. Take a family camping trip or vacation.

Outdoor Adventures: Encourage your child to explore nature and engage in sports activities. These experiences not only promote physical fitness but also foster curiosity and appreciation for the natural world.

Creative Pursuits: Promote artistic expression through painting, drawing, writing, and crafting. These endeavors stimulate imagination, problem-solving skills, and fine motor development.

Reading and Storytelling: Stress the importance of literacy by engaging in storytelling and visiting the library. Reading helps improve vocabulary, comprehension, and critical thinking abilities, while storytelling nurtures creativity and emotional intelligence.

Community Engagement: Participate in community service or volunteer projects as a family. Engaging with the community instills empathy, social responsibility, and a sense of purpose.

Hobbies and Interests: While your child will likely spend more times on screen during the summer, you can at least strive for moderation by balancing the digital hours with scheduled hobbies and activities. Enroll your child in swimming, karate, soccer, a musical instrument, or a summer day camp.

Additional Strategies for Parents: How To Create Healthy Tech Habits

To foster healthy tech habits, parents can implement the following strategies:

Consider your family values. Laura Knight, a former elementary teacher and author of “Break Free from Reactive Parenting,” created a family values chart to help the family collectively discuss what they valued and how screen time fit in.

Lead by example. Children learn from observing their parents’ behavior. Model healthy tech habits by setting aside dedicated screen-free times and spaces, prioritizing face-to-face interactions, and engaging in alternative activities.

Establish clear rules. Set clear and consistent guidelines for screen time usage. Define specific time limits, establish tech-free zones (such as during meals or before bedtime), and discuss the reasons behind these rules to help children understand their importance.

Make a chore-first summer routine. If you allow your children screen time the moment after they wake up, it’ll be much harder to reduce the amount of time spent using technology throughout the day. Instead, mandate that chores be done first to “earn” screen time. No chores? No TV, video games, phones, or computers that day. Try to make chore time fun by putting on an upbeat playlist, using a sticker chart, or putting out chore flash cards to foster greater independence.

Choose time of day wisely. Many kids find “tablet time” to be relaxing. An hour of screen time can be a blessing when you’re scrambling to chop, cook, and get dinner on the table. Summer screen time should work with your family life to produce greater harmony.

Invest in co-screen time. Research has shown that all screen time is not created equal. High-quality apps and learning together alongside your child can be good for your child’s social-emotional wellbeing. Engaging in co-viewing or co-playing activities with your child also allows for bonding, conversation, and critical media literacy discussions.

The Bottom Line:

Balancing screen time for kids over the summer is crucial for their overall well-being and healthy development. By setting reasonable limits, providing alternative activities, and implementing strategies to foster healthy tech habits, parents can create a balanced approach that allows children to enjoy their summer while cultivating a well-rounded set of skills and experiences. With mindful guidance and engagement, children can thrive in a digital world while embracing the richness of the offline world.

Want more quality summer time off-screen? Drop into the Shine Center for everyday fun.